Thursday, May 17, 2012

Going Private


All this site is meant for is a way to journal life for my kids.

maybe keep some friends and family in the know.

share a little with Mamas on the same path. or interested in it. or further down it than I am.

Hopefully glorify God a little bit.

But then I discovered that a significant portion of my traffic is coming from some site called " Trolls with Wooden Spoons".

It's a members only forum. The title sounded ominous, so I looked it up.

All I know is that it seems to be a  site made purely for belittling others. **

Cannot even begin to imagine why anyone would waste their own precious time creating or posting on such a thing.

Most likely, they discovered this itty bitty corner of the Internet through some links I left at sites that I enjoy reading, and with whom I wanted to share what's been going on in our lives.

Who knows what they are picking on me for.
 Maybe it's the whole MicroFarm gig.
or my horrible tendency to get too wordy...or too quick with that publish button before editing.
or the homeschooling.*
or the Home birth that wasn't.
Maybe it's the God talk. This is the place where I am learning not to be ashamed of my faith. Not to temper what I say about God because someone might discredit my whole opinion because of it.

It doesn't matter all that much. I realize that they know nothing about me or my history. They don't understand what it is like to come from where I've been to where I am. Why I might feel like all of this is worth writing about.

But it sounds like they enjoy telling people how their babies deserve to die. or how they are morons for their particular way of life.

So, I am pretty sure that I don't want them having any access to mine.

This is my place to think.

My place to practice sharing my opinion and not caring about how someone might judge it.

BUT I want to be able to share things honestly for my children. In a way that is fair to them. and since I won't waste my time figuring out what their issue with me actually is- I just have to circle my figurative wagons and protect what matters most.

I am a little bummed, because I was excited about the chance to share with other people. I am by no means an expert at anything that I am doing, but I thought it might be kind of fun to share my adventures with other people. other people that aren't experts and wonder if it is something they could do. people that just want to jump in feet first and see if they can't just grow their own food, raise their own livestock, or teach their own kids with no experience and no particular talent.

Oh well.
By e-mail request only.
I always liked my parties more exclusive anyhow.

* I seriously felt the need to justify myself. With my Education degree. with the fact that we went to the hospital at the very same time as we would have if we planned a hospital birth anyhow. AND THAT... is why I must go private folks.
** I've been informed by a couple of people that the website is meant to be a support site also, and they have been given genuine support there. I sincerely think that is wonderful. I don't even know what was written about me, all I know is that when I tried to find out what the site was- it is members only and a Google search yields nothing about support....but a lot about how these people make fun of others,have made awful threats, etc.


  1. No one, NO ONE there ever "[told] people how their babies deserve to die." That's ridiculous and mean, to say that. We snark, yes, but when we criticize UC, it's because we feel babies deserve GOOD outcomes, which statistically are more likely with a knowledgeable, trained birth attendant.

  2. Also, if you had bothered to read the thread, we really were only snarking a turn of phrase (baby as hunk of meat.) But that was so insufficiently snark-worthy that we quickly went off-topic and started talking about how crappy hospital birth-record keeping is, and how doctors had failed to tell eleventy twillion of us some very pertinent health information, relating to our births.

  3. Kate I apologize if that seemed offensive to you, however, hen I "googled" to find out what TWWS actually wa, I found a thread on another boar ( one of the first hits) where the OP discusses that threats were made. Since your board is membersonly, those kind of hitsare all anyone has to go off of.
    Honestly, if it is a support board, that iswonderful. that is why I edited what I wrote. I can't say that it is a support board because of anything that I could personally read about it, but I could relate that many ladies say that they have received support there.
    and I can appreciate your understanding about hospital births. I am not a fan. Didn't intentionally plan one because my first was exactly as you describe.